Your child is afraid of sleeping alone
Many parents believe that leaving the child alone to deal
with his fears and treat himself on his own is the best solution. But this
solution may cause more serious disorders
Childhood is one of the most common stages of life in which
fear appears, as many children suffer from intense fear during sleep. This fear
may be accompanied by intense screaming and crying, calls for help, and sudden
awakening, which makes the child afraid in his bed
The second problem that millions of children suffer from is
the fear of the dark. The question here is: How did the idea that there is a
monster when it is dark get into the child's brain? How should mothers deal
with their children’s fear during and during sleep
Be a good and firm mother
"I don't want to sleep in my room alone. I'm afraid of
the dark. There are monsters that will kidnap me." These are the repeated
words that “Adam” says daily to his mother, and Julia - Adam’s mother - tries
to calm him down and that nothing is worth this fear, but sitting for long
periods of time watching horror movies and terrifying reports about ghosts and
monsters made him have many nightmares
This prompted Julia to prevent him from watching these
channels and delete them, then make him understand that this is not real and
realistic, so that it does not remain in his imagination and affect his psyche
She was very understanding and patient with him and tried to
address and confront this fear in the best way, which is confrontation and that
all of these things are not realistic, and to restore his feeling of safety and
freedom from anxiety. But this issue took a long time with the help of a
psychological therapist, and in the end she succeeded in returning her son to
his usual self
Among the most important things that Julia adopted in
treating her son: Reducing pressure on him by avoiding watching movies that
include horror scenes, talking to him about his problems at school or with
friends and trying to solve them, maintaining family stability without any
family quarrels occurring in front of him, hugging him frequently to make him
feel safe, and reading useful stories to him before bed
Julia says, “The mother must be gentle with her son and firm
at the same time in order to obtain a positive result that rids her child of
the fears he is experiencing during that period”
Treating fear in several correct ways
Social specialists believe that talking calmly to the child
about fear and giving him confidence in his psychological ability to overcome
it are very important. This is done by listening to him, talking to him, and
telling him that fear is normal and expected of real things
Although we know as adults that ghosts and strange monsters
do not exist, a child cannot easily imagine the absurdity of believing in the
existence of such frightening things, especially when understanding the many
sources of such frightening thoughts that enter and his mind imagines it
Psychologists confirm that “it is natural for the child’s
fear to increase at night and when sleeping. It is then normal for him to begin
to express his need for his mother and his desire to be with her, specifically
to sleep near her in her bed. What is required of the mother is to show the child
her closeness to him, her surrounding him with care, and the sincerity of her
feeling for what he is suffering.” From him, and it is good to make him
understand that it is natural for him to look for his mother and safety with
her, and that his mother will be with him and next to him. However, the mother
must not go too far in responding to his requests, specifically sleeping with
her in her bed. She must resist this request gently and kindly, because
sleeping in her room permanently It won't solve the problem
Some things mothers should consider
Specialists point out that it is wrong to address him by
saying, “I will look under the bed to prove to you that there are no monsters,
or if I were a rational and upright boy, I would not be afraid of ghosts,” because
this indirectly gives the child the feeling that his fear has a basis; Or the
thing he is afraid of might be around him
The child should also be kept away from watching horror films
in general and fairy tale films before bed, or intimidating him because he does
not sleep
In addition to not forcing him to sleep in a dark room if the
child feels afraid of the dark, and not insisting on turning off all the lights
while sleeping, but soft lighting can be used, and the room door left slightly
open, as this gives him a more comfortable and secure feeling
It is wise to be there for the child and give him compassion,
without going into any details, when he wakes up terrified because of a
nightmare. One must be careful not to blame the child or shout at him during
this situation. And communicate with him by touch, that is, the child must be
hugged and held by his hand so that he feels safe and reassured, and not leave
his bed to feel that everything is fine
Some supportive methods Specialists advise trying to uncover
the psychological, social and
educational problems that the child is
experiencing, and the mother must have the utmost
patience in dealing with the child
Screaming punishment, and neglect are unwise methods and
although they make the mother
comfortable they leave the child disturbed and sleep
disorders may accompany him for life
In addition to trying to do activities during the day that
focus on enhancing the child’s self confidence building his personality, and
acquiring new skills, and encouraging him to face his fears at bedtime
Specialists believe that there is no child who does not have
a toy or something strongly attached to him. The mother must search for the
child’s favorite toy and place it next to him in bed as a companion to him, and
this gives him a feeling of comfort and security
Some common
mistakes in treating fear Specialists point out the common mistakes in treating
fear of sleep in children These methods are widespread, such as the inherited
folk methods of teaching a child to sleep on his own, but unfortunately they
are among the wrong and failed methods that increase fears and psychological
disorders in children, the most important of which are
One of the wrong ways to treat a child's fear when sleeping
is when the mother resorts to the act of clearing the room of monsters before
sleeping. This method may give the child a feeling of security at the beginning
of sleep, but it undoubtedly strengthens his belief in the presence of monsters
in his room, doubles his fear and increases the chances of panic. Night and
night sleep due to fear
Maintaining a fixed routine for children, but this is not
considered a major part of treating a child’s fear at bedtime. Rather, trying
to force a sleep routine on the child may contribute to strengthening his fear
of sleep
Which is telling him that you will not leave him alone in the
room, and that he should just try to sleep, and then you will leave as soon as
the child goes to sleep. This method is very bad and causes more harm than
good. The child must understand that he will sleep alone, and you can promise
to come back to check on him once or twice at night, no more
It is not recommended to have sound in the child's room. You
should also avoid relaxation recordings spread on the Internet. The child
should sleep in a quiet room with very dim or dark lighting
Negligence Many parents believe that leaving the child alone to deal with his fears and treat himself by himself is the ideal solution, but the truth is that neglecting the child and letting him live with his fear of the dark, monsters, and evil people may help him devise a solution, but this solution may cause more serious disorders, including some. Sexual disorders
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